Is Asking Women if They Got Home Safe Sexist?
- The article discusses the common practice of asking women to confirm they made it home safely, suggesting it may be sexist.
- Helen Coffey argues that this practice oversimplifies the dangers faced and perpetuates a narrative focused on women's vulnerabilities.
- The piece encourages readers to reconsider how safety concerns are communicated and who bears the responsibility.
In the wake of high-profile cases of violence against women, societal perceptions of safety have intensified, leading to increased caution among women. A recent encounter highlights this tension, as an acquaintance urged a woman to share her live location for safety while walking home. The woman, however, questioned the logic behind this request, noting her extensive experience walking the same route without incident. Statistics reveal a more complex reality regarding safety. Men are statistically more likely to be attacked by strangers than women, with 20% of men reporting such incidents compared to 9% of women. Furthermore, a significant portion of violent crimes against women—24%—are committed by acquaintances rather than strangers. This data challenges the prevailing narrative that women are inherently unsafe when alone, suggesting that the focus on women’s safety may overlook the risks men face. The conversation around safety often shifts blame onto women, implying that their choices contribute to potential harm. This perspective can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and distract from the real issue: the need to address violence against women and the role of men in these dynamics. The author argues for a more balanced risk assessment, advocating for awareness that reflects the actual dangers present in society. Ultimately, while the desire to protect women is commendable, it is essential to recognize the broader context of safety and violence, encouraging a dialogue that includes the experiences and responsibilities of all individuals.