Single motherhood crisis deepens as men abandon families in Kenya

In recent years, Kenya has witnessed a significant rise in single-parent families, with an increase from 25% to 38% in just a decade. This alarming trend raises concerns, particularly for women who are often left to raise children on their own without support. Jacinta Nafula, a hair braider in Nairobi, exemplifies the challenges faced by many women in these circumstances. After marrying her boyfriend, who later abandoned her for another woman, Nafula struggled to maintain stability for herself and her son Richard. Her experiences reflect a broader societal issue where men, particularly from her generation, seem unwilling to take on familial responsibilities. Moreover, during the COVID-19 pandemic, Nafula found herself in a precarious situation, becoming homeless due to unpaid rent. She later entered a relationship with a church musician, who also disappeared upon learning she was pregnant. Nafula's story indicates the growing pressures faced by women in informal work, particularly in cities like Nairobi. The absence of involved fathers has compounded the challenges of parenting alone, with many mothers feeling abandoned and disillusioned. Studies and articles have noted this shift in family dynamics within the country, focusing on how the historical view of fatherhood as the family pillar has deteriorated over the years. Previously, men held significant social status and authority in family life, even with multiple wives and children. Today, these traditional roles appear to be shifting as women increasingly assume the responsibilities of single parenthood. The situation is compounded by societal attitudes towards men’s roles, as many believe that modern fathers are less willing to take on the responsibilities that come with family life. As Kenya continues to grapple with this growing crisis, voices like Nafula's shed light on the lived experiences of women facing these struggles. Her assertion about modern men's reluctance to commit to family life exemplifies a critical discussion about gender roles and responsibilities in contemporary society. The increase in single motherhood not only affects the mothers but also has long-term implications for children and society, raising questions about support systems and policies needed for such families.